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Holistic Family Mediation Blog

Writer's pictureSushma Kotecha

Why I Think Holistic Family Mediation is a Healthier Option for Separating and Divorcing Couples


Holistic family mediation is a healthier option because it supports couples facing family break up to have a kinder, compassionate and more dignified approach to resolving issues arising out of their separation.


The process allows the parties to explore and reach agreement on ‘soft issues’ like communication difficulties and boundary setting that are often more pressing and important than the legal issues.


The court has no power to adjudicate on such matters and frankly, will not be concerned or drawn into any such dialogue.


Mediation allows parties to remain in control of outcomes as opposed to giving over their decision-making power to a judge or bench of magistrates. This is particularly important where children are concerned.

Nobody knows the children better than the parents, it is our duty to step up and take responsibility to agree arrangements for our children that are child-focused and centred around their individual needs - ensuring they maintain a meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family members, where it is safe and suitable to do so.


Mediation is future-focused and helps couples in conflict shelf issues that no longer serve them or their families. It is my role as mediator to manage conflict and emotions.


If there are deep rooted issues and trauma that remains unresolved with feelings and emotions running wild, I will recommend that they work with other professionals best suited to help with this like divorce coaches, psychotherapists and/ or counsellors as well a range of other holistic therapies as set out on my resources page found here.


I facilitate a safe virtual space for separating couples to explore issues and support them in having often, very difficult conversations. I provide pragmatic guidance, relevant legal and other information, tools and resources to empower them to reach their own informed decisions.


I bring to the virtual table over 27 years' experience as a divorce/family lawyer and my own personal journey, being a divorcee myself. You can read my story here.


Family mediation is a cheaper and quicker option compared to the traditional lawyer-led and court-based approach. It is less toxic and less emotionally draining.


A holistic approach to family breakup via the mediation route will allow for happier, healthier lives' post separation and divorce for call concerned – the divorcing/separating couple, their children and future generations. This approach supports couples in conflict to not only survive after a breakup, but to thrive.


If you are curious about how holistic family mediation can help support you and your family through separation and/or divorce, you may wish to consider our FAQs page and/or book in a Free Discovery Call via our services page.


If you are ready to get the ball rolling, please complete and submit a Self-Referral Form and book your initial separate Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (MIAM) online.


We will then get in touch with your ex-partner (unless requested to hold-off at this stage) to encourage them to engage in the process highlighting the benefits of family mediation - low cost, staying in control and to have a quicker resolution compared to court based proceedings.




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